Do you know what makes you happy? Do you have an overarching dream in your life? And are you living in line with that dream?
One Love is the foundation of my coaching practice. Your One Love is your Dream or Goal; it gives you the drive to live and change. If we do not have a dream, finding the motivation to make positive changes in our lives can be difficult and we can easily become lost.
The dream keeps us motivated to stay on our path to wellness. It helps us to say “No” to what doesn’t serve us and “Yes” to what brings a sense of harmony to our lives. The dream will look different to everyone and might change with time. It may be financial freedom, raising a close family or having a healthy body. Everyone is different and everyone’s dream is personal.
Your One Love should give you a joyful ride and I will help you in keeping a healthy relationship to your goals and encourage your to enjoy the journey. It is important to celebrate your milestones; commitment is more important than rigidity. I encourage you to always practice the 80/20 principle: following the rules 80% of the time and enjoying the freedom 20%.
You may ask yourself “If everyone wants to be happy, why is it so difficult to make the necessary changes in our lives to support our dreams?”. The law of facilitation tells us that “When an impulse has passed once through a certain set of neurons to the exclusion of others, it will tend to take the same course on a future occasion, and each time it traverses this path the resistance in the path will be smaller.”You could also say that energy and information will always take the path of least resistance; so, when a habit is ingrained in our system, it will take more effort to change the path than it will take to stay in an old pattern. This is where your dream can help you, giving you that extra energy needed to forge a new path.
Becoming specific with your dream is not always easy. “I just want to be happy” is a classic example. Happiness is a valid goal; however, naming what can facilitate this happiness can motivate you even more. “I want to be healthy and strong, so that I can play with my grandchildren, which makes me happy” gives us a bit more to work with. Playing with the grandchildren is the goal, and being healthy and strong are the necessary components to make the dream come true. Coaching will be designed to develop these components, and you will be supported by energy created by your goal.
If you can’t find your dream you can always look from the other perspective and ask yourself what your nightmare would be. What is it that you know you DON’T want it your life? And start with working away from that.
A first step: Make sure you are eating and drinking in line with your dream! Having a clean body and mind will give you more energy and clearer thoughts to move beyond the obstacles hindering you from reaching your dream.
Here are also 10 Questions you can work with to find your One Love:
- What do you dream about?
- What makes you feel good?
- What gives you a sense of purpose?
- What geography would you choose?
- What are you passionate about?
- What people would you surround yourself with?
- What values are needed to support your dream?
- What would be your chosen working environment?
- What is the income you need to live your desired lifestyle?
- What level of responsibility are you ready to accept?
If you don’t build your dream someone else will hire you to help build theirs – Tony Graskins